Author and podcast host Polly Campbell recalls a story of helping her 7th grade daughter navigate 7th grade.  

“It was while my daughter was settled into the passenger seat—essentially trapped for the 15 minutes it would take to get home—that I gave her some advice.

She was feeling lonely and sad thanks to friend drama at school that doesn’t seem to have changed at all since I walked the seventh grade halls roughly a zillion years earlier. Didn’t feel like she was fitting in.

‘Just do what feels right to you,’ I said.

You know, the thing that allows you to fall asleep instead of worry? Do that thing. Be true to your values, to what’s important to you, even when it’s hard and people are telling you something different.

It’s the same thing I’ve told myself over the years …. It is what I tell myself now when self-doubt creeps in and I feel lonely and left out and not good enough. 

Do what feels right to you.

Be true to what’s important to you, even when it’s hard.”

One of my favorite things about working with clients one on one is helping them do just that – be true to what’s important to them. Even when it’s hard.

Brielle is one of my beautiful, talented, and strong clients and friends.  She is a wise soul and older in insight and self-development than her 19-year-old earth age suggests.

She recently had a birthday and posted 19 things she’s learned in the past year – a year filled with growth and grounding, dating and duds, roommates and reckoning, plans and promises.

She is striving to be true to what’s important to her.  And gosh is it hard sometimes!!

With her permission, I am sharing her list exactly as she posted it. 

I know there will be things she says that will resonate with you.  And yes, you could pick one.  Lean into it.  Let it be an answer for something weighing on you, right now. 

You could also use this list of Brielle’s as a jumping off point for you to create your own list of what you’re learning.

Ready?

1. How you view yourself influences how others treat you.
2. People come into your life for growth or learning; they’re not there to intentionally hurt you.
3. Keep some aspects of your life private and let others speculate.
4. The universe aligns in my favor.
5. Knowledge is potential. Application is power.
6. Good things are abundant.
7. Challenges are opportunities to learn.
8. It’s the golf club, not my swing 😉
9. Pause before acting.
10. Perspective is everything.
11. “Sadness comes from a perceived lack of options…Anxiety comes from many options but no priorities” – Alex Hormozi
12. Blaming others relinquishes control over your own life.
13. “If you aren’t looking at your past and cringing, you aren’t growing” – my mom
14. Coffee always helps.
15. Learn by observing, listening, and applying.
16. The best way to fight fear is with information. You can’t fix what you don’t know.
17. Rather than dwelling on a situation, focus on the facts and reassess.
18. There is no limit to growth.
19. Pray about it.

I can’t wait to hear about what’s important to you.  And how you’re choosing it even when it’s hard.  And if you’re having any trouble figuring it out, I’d love help. 

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