It was always him – and kairos.
We often think that readiness is what we need to achieve before something good can happen. We try to “get ready” for school or a trip, a job or a move, love, success, healing, etc.. But readiness alone doesn’t always lead to fulfillment – because timing matters just as much. There’s a term in ancient […]
Your Natural Love Language.
For being a relatively healthy person overall, I have actually had a lot of surgeries. Some of them I categorize as “let’s dig around and fix some things up” – i.e. ovarian cysts, meniscus tear, hole in my heart, etc. – and some I categorize and “let’s just get this thing out of there” – […]
Emily’s bar and a different kind of contagion.
My friend Emily has worked in the bar industry for almost 20 years. She has worked in a half a dozen different bars and knows more about bar culture than anyone I know. At 5’ 2” and less than 100 lbs. soaking wet, you would not look at her and think that she could break […]
Red, Dad, and Blue – and Utah’s Holy War.
I grew up in a split home. No, not that kind of split. Let me explain. There’s a college rivalry in our state that dates back – depending on who you ask – at least to 1922, maybe earlier. We’re talking over A HUNDRED YEARS. It’s the face-off between the University of Utah and Brigham […]
Aunt Judi and being bold.
Dictionary.com defines the word BOLD this way: My Aunt Judi embodied the word bold. She was the kind of person you noticed right away. She had a personality that filled the room, a big, colorful energy that was impossible to ignore. In a world where people often hold back or second-guess themselves, she stood out because she […]
Seeing ourselves through others’ eyes.
Several of my youngest clients are heading back to school in the next couple weeks. The topics we’ve discussed in our sessions have revolved around their class schedules and their friend groups and will they or won’t they like their teachers and who will they sit with at lunch and should they try out for […]
10 ways you’re not choosing love.
Darren and I met over 35 years ago. We dated each other in three different decades. And last month we celebrated our 5-year wedding anniversary. To say we have had an unconventional love story is an understatement. But, as I often tell people, it’s a pretty great story. In coaching about life, I end […]
Which kind of self-aware are you?
Several weeks ago I was sitting in a large event arena to witness one of my nephews’ high school graduation. The arena had steep stadium seating so I had a really good view of a mom trying to keep her toddler quiet in the row in front of me. What finally did the trick was […]
Turning Strangers into Friends.
In the 5 years before Darren and I got married, I made only a couple trips a year out of my home state. Mostly to visit family. Mostly with my sisters. Which meant I had a lot of chances on those trips to talk with a lot of people I know really, really well. In […]
2000 hours and my Universal Truths.
I have had the incredible opportunity for two thousand hours now to sit across the screen from people who want to make progress in some area of their life. One definition of progress I love is “forward or onward movement toward a destination, to improve, to proceed, to advance, to make headway, to press on, […]
