Christmas in California.
I lived the first eight years of my life in a suburb of North Western Minneapolis called Golden Valley. I’m proud to tell people that Minnesota air was the first air I breathed. My dad was recruited to the University of Minnesota early in his career, and 5 of the 11 kids in my family […]
The gajillion offerings of the Enneagram.
I sometimes joke that without the Enneagram, I wouldn’t be married. But I’m only partly kidding. Darren and I had been dating again for about a year when I followed the recommendation of a podcaster I respected and bought the book “The Road Back to You.” That book started a journey and a rabbit hole […]
Mr. Nobody
In the house in which most of my siblings and I grew up, there was a long straight hall in between my parent’s room and my dad’s study. The hallway had dark brown short shag carpet, two electrical outlets, one picture of Jesus, 6 doors, and an attic access on the ceiling. Does it sound […]
Forgetting it.
I walked into a store the other day and saw a 30ish-year-old woman sitting on a bench, waiting. She immediately smiled at me with recognition and said ‘Hello!!’. I knew I knew her from someplace so I smiled and said “Hi!” back and then walked past. Then I promptly wracked my brain for her name […]
Getting your own tea.
One of my favorite things to coach about is resentment. And my favorite definition of resentment comes from the Cambridge Dictionary: “A feeling of anger because you have been forced to accept something you do not like.” Isn’t that a good description? We could – and probably will – talk A LOT about resentment here, […]
Two Kinds of Askers.
“But what do I say if someone asks?” This is something I have heard many, many, many times. The person asking me wants to know what to say when someone asks them “What are you doing after high school?” or “Is it true that you broke up with him?” or “What are you going to […]
The Third Option.
The Third Option I was recently coaching a young client about her relationship. She has been dating someone for several years, waiting and waiting and waiting for him to propose. He has his reasons for putting it off. She doesn’t like the reasons. And they constantly fight about it. Every few months she gets more […]
